The Dark Side Of Motivation

Negative emotions are an unavoidable part of life. No one is immune to them, no matter who you are or how trained you may be. All too often these negative emotions completely derail you from pushing forward towards your goals. Typically the bigger the goals you set, the more hardships and resistance you will face. Needless to say, it's critical to your long-term success to have a coping mechanism to turn negative emotions like jealousy, sadness, anxiety, fear, self-pity, etc. into something empowering.

In an ideal world, you would be able to get your mental state under control and back to a positive (or at worst neutral) state. Sometimes this just can't happen no matter how hard you try. Enter "The Dark Side of Motivation" as Andy Frisella has deemed it... rather than wallowing in self-pity and allowing a negative mental state to paralyze you, turn it into anger... Wear it as a chip on your shoulder and let that anger fuel massive action towards your goals. I'll give a couple of examples below to make it a little more clear:

• Someone whose opinion you respect doubts that you can do what you set out to achieve... naturally you feel a little dejected and begin to doubt yourself. Flip this on its head and use it as fuel for the fire; "Oh, you don't think I can do it? I'll prove you wrong no matter what it takes." Take massive action with a new chip on your shoulder.
• Life throws adversity your way that you had no control over... rather than being down in the dumps, face the challenge with that "bring it on MF'er" attitude.

Achieving massive goals takes everything you've got... If you can't find a way to turn your negative mental states into something that works for you it's going to be impossible to find consistency and go that extra mile that greatness requires. Not only does Andy Frisella talk about it in his Podcast (I'll link the episode below) but so does Tim Grover in his book Relentless. Unfortunately, life is never going to be all rainbows and sunshine... adversity is going to happen and if you don't have that coping mechanism to stay on the attack you'll never reach your goals.

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Andy Frisella's Episode On This- https://andyfrisella.com/blogs/mfceo-project-podcast/the-1-most-effective-motivator-that-people-never-use-with-andy-frisella-mfceo262